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Shrinkage….Battle or Blessing??

One would be hard pressed to find a person with textured hair that does not their own personal shrinkage “war stories”. We’ve all had those days when our hair is on its best behavior, it’s LAID to the max, we step into a space with the slightest amount of moisture in the air and what happens? Shrinkage………..

What is it exactly? Shrinkage is the hair’s tendency to “draw up” making it look shorter than it really is. Most textured hair types are affected by shrinkage, some more than others. Tighter curls, coils and kinks tend to shrink more than looser curl types.



Why do we have it? What purpose does it serve? (in the “I’m annoyed’ voice) Shrinkage is elasticity; if your curls bounce back it is an indication that your strands are healthy. The truth is, if you have textured hair of any type, shrinkage is part of the package.


If your shrinkage has you down, there are styling techniques that you can do to stretch your hair, including banding, blow drying, flat twisting, cornrows or even henna, which has a loosening effect on natural curls.

Whether you embrace your shrinkage or are a fan of stretched styles, maintaining the health of your hair is essential.

Just don’t lose hope 🙂


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Have You Met Wendy??

Who doesn’t wish they could look flawlessly put together every time they step out the door? Tell the truth…….

Well, we certainly can’t come over to your house to properly apply concealer and use translucent powder to minimize shine, but we CAN point you in the direction of someone who can (she might charge a little extra for travel expenses, but it will definitely be worth it).

On the first day that we started asking those in our circle about the makeup artists in the area, no less than four people mentioned Wendy Fiallo. Our interest was peaked, and we reached out to her on Facebook (after stalking her page and website). We decided that we absolutely had to feature her on the blog for you all to get to know her, and find an excuse to have your makeup done 😉

How did your career begin in the world of beauty?


I grew up in a family of women who believed in putting their best face forward. My Grandmother was a beauty queen and my Mother was a Mary Kay consultant. I saw women come to a consultation feeling normal and drab and leave feeling exuberant and unique. I saw the magic in the transformation and must have locked that within me. I began makeup artistry at the tender age of 17 behind the makeup counters at Robinsons May in San Diego CA. It’s been a whirlwind since then of glamour, fashion, lights and movement from coast to coast.

How would you describe your signature look?

I operate somewhere in the parallels of enhancement and transformation. My looks always draw a bit of an alter-ego but definitely without removing the individuality or what makes my client unique.

What is it about your style that sets you apart from other makeup artists?

I set myself apart in style through my ability to determine what best suits my clients versus repeating the same style time and again. I think it’s important to let my clients shine. Blending and precision are incredibly important to me and I work hard to make sure that I uphold a standard to that.

What are some common beauty mistakes that women make?

I’m going to swing on the other side of this thought into a more uplifting one… I think a common mistake women make is by following what they have been told they should be or do by friends or “beauty experts”.  Makeup is a form of self expression. Too many times a women will shy away from that perfect shade of red or that extra pop of a full band of lashes for fear that someone may tear down their efforts. I believe life is best lived in expression. I think the most common mistake is not taking enough leaps, not experimenting with your beauty and not feeling confident enough to fail and try again.

How do you believe that looking and feeling beautiful contributes to a woman’s confidence and self-esteem?

This is an endless question… 😉  I believe that we all have a need to be “seen”. I belive we all have a need for our existence to be validated. Makeup is a medium to bring attention to a person.  Attention either by the art of it, the beauty behind it or the attempt at it. It can be a trademark, an escape or a transformation. Regardless of how it is used by someone it correlates directly with how they are in search of claiming their own confidence, self awareness and self assuredness.  Even if someone chooses to hate makeup and not wear it at all, that is still a statement of self assertion and makes them feel confident for taking a stand. Makeup is a quick claim to independence and when we feel unique among the masses that can create a stance of beauty and confidence that we feel in our bones.

What are some of your go-to products?

I live and die by primers.   Primers are incredibly important for so many reasons. They lengthen the endurance of the makeup and uphold its integrity thorughout the day, it keeps dirt/debris and makeup out of the pores which can help alleviate makeup-prone breakouts. Some of the better brands (Smashbox, Cover FX, Laura Mercier) also include wonderful skin care ingredients that are helpful for an array of issues…. dark spots, anti aging components, break-outs, oil etc.

What is THE most important beauty advice that you can give to women?

Honor your beauty.  Take care of what you’ve been given and experiment with ways to feel unique and beautiful at all stages of life. Forget about dwelling on the fact that you are getting older. Instead, get excited at the opportuinity to create a new and improved self. Try a new lip color, wear your liner different, bring color with a beautiful rosy blush… claim your circumstances and honor who and wear you are!

How can our readers contact you for services?
So, who’s ready to make an appointment with Wendy, get in line!!
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The ABCs of Textured Hair

Here at The Confetti Collective, we’re a bunch of nerds. We enjoy learning and we like to find new ways to retain what we learn so we can share it with you. We can’t have you feeling like a stranger in a strange land after you’ve crossed over into textured territory, so below are the ABCs of the magnificent mane you wear, with a few extras thrown in:

*Disclaimer: This list is by no means law, your ABC’s may differ from mine, and that’s cool.


Jamila Henna Powder


A : Ayurveda. A 5,000 yr old system of natural health and healing that is named for the Sanskrit word that means the science of life. Herbs and oils like  henna, neem, amla, brahmi and bhringraj are becoming more common in textured hair care due to being natural.


B : Be patient. The journey to learn your hair takes time.

C : Conditioner. Stock up when it’s on sale, you will run through this like….. well, like  a curly girl runs through conditioner.

C :  (cont’d) – Cowash. All that conditioner you just scored shouldn’t sit in the closet gathering dust.

D : Detangle. Some people only detangle after shampoo/co-wash. My hair requires a pre and post detangling session. Regardless of when it’s done, starting from the ends and working up the hair shaft is best. Gone are the days of yanking, tugging and pulling.

E : Extra Virgin Olive Oil. Use this powerhouse oil as a prepoo, boost your deep conditioning treatment or use it to combat dry scalp.

F : Fairy knots. Isn’t it amazing how you can FULLY detangle your hair, put it in twists and go to bed, only to wake up with several knots in your strands. Those blasted fairies

G : Grapeseed oil. It’s a staple in every aspect of my hair care.

H : Hand in Hair. I know, it’s fabulously awesome and the healthiest it’s been in your entire life. Try to keep your hands out of it once your style is complete. We know it’s hard, just keep trying 😉

I : Ingredients. Once you’ve embarked on the journey of learning and loving your natural hair texture, you’ll have to start paying close attention to products ingredients before you buy. Learn about sulfates and other chemicals, and you can read this blog post about why cones are no-no’s.

J : Journal. Maintain a record of how your hair responds to different products and methods. You will be able to build your regimen from the things that work best.

K : Knots. Prepare yourself for these. For me, free-flowing, afrolicious hair leads to a knot collection. I’ve chocked this up to my hair loving itself SOOOO much that it wants to wrap itself around itself, or something……



L : Low manipulation styles. AKA Protective styling, your hair gets a break from being fiddled with, and you get to make it out the door with little to no hair anxiety.



M : Moisture retention. Do you know your hair’s porosity? If not, check out this blog post. Once you know your hair’s ability to absorb moisture, you will be able to determine which products are optimal for you.

N : Never handle your hair when you’re tired, hungry or angry. Your hair will probably suffer the consequences of your mood.

O: -outs. Particularly if you’re transitioning, braidouts ,twistouts, bantu knot outs are options for “hiding” your chemically treated ends and blending them with your natural texture. These are also great options for achieving big, extra awesome hair.




P – Product Junkie. Admitting you have a problem is the first step on the road to recovery. “Hello everyone, my name is                      , and I’m a product junkie.”



Q – Quit comparing your hair to others. Your hair is just as uniquely fabulous as you are.

R – Resist going back to chemicals when you have a bad hair day. You are in a new relationship, give your hair the benefit of the doubt and take the time to learn what makes her happy.

S – Scalp. A healthy scalp grows healthy hair.

T – Trims. IMO there is no tried and true schedule for when your hair needs to be trimmed. As you learn you hair more you will notice when it changes. If you ends are looking scraggly and thin, get them trimmed, it will grow back 😉

U: Under no circumstances are you to walk past another textured hair wearer and not point out how wonderful their hair is. Anything less would be uncivilized..

V: Vernacular. There is a different language spoken in the curly world, and just like in a foreign country you’re going to have to learn the lingo in order to find your way around. Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered, read this.

W – Wash as needed with shampoo. If you are fond of cowashing, be sure to clarify your scalp as needed to remove buildup and keep your scalp healthy.

X : okay, I got nothing here….

Y : You’re supposed to know what is best for your hair,  after all it’s on your head!



Z : Z-Pattern Hair. Type 4 hair is sometimes known as “zigzag” or fractal hair type. This hair type is extra sensitive to rough handling and often has a shrinkage ratio of up to 75%.



Do you have a friend that needs to know this information? Share this post with them and you’ll be responsible for their textured tresses becoming healthier and more fabulous every day 😉

What do you think about this list? Leave your comments below, we’d love to hear from you!



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We’re Not Uncle Sam, but We Want You!



Here at The Confetti Collective, we are realists. We know that was can’t do it all, and we don’t beat ourselves up about it (most of the time…).  With that, we’ve decided to add contributors to our blog. We want to provide a fresh take on the different areas we enjoy posting about. Here’s what we’re looking for:

Beauty – Posts about beauty tips, tutorials, trends, reviews and hauls

Textured Hair – Posts about hair care tips, tutorials and product reviews

Fashion  – Trends, fashion-related events, and tips (no outfit posts)

Health & Wellness – do we really need to explain this one???

Contributors will post at least four times per month for 6 months, with all images credited that are not their own. An existing blog is not required.

At this time contributors will not be paid, however a bio entry will be posted on a Contributor page with all contact information. Contributors will also receive a little welcome gift from us 😉

If you’re interested, email us at with Contributor – ‘your area of interest’ in the subject line. Please include the link to your blog/vlog if you have one.

We look forward to hearing from you!




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Inaugural Vision Board Brunch Wrap-Up

In case we haven’t said this to you already, Happy New Year!

We hosted our Inaugural Vision Board Brunch on Saturday January 11, and if the feedback from our guests is any indication, it was a great experience for all. Our brunch menu consisted of vegetable frittata, BLT paninis (provided by Fresh), apple crumb cake (provided by Hana’s Japanese Bakery) and fresh fruit. Guests were also served coffee, water, and orange-tangerine spritzers.

After a brief overview of what a vision board is we cranked the music up and got busy. All materials were provided, including poster board, markers, glue, scissors and there were over 50 different magazines to peruse for inspiration. Guests also received a complimentary copy of “Brainstorming your Vision Board”, a booklet that was created for the event.

As all of our guests were entrepreneurs/small business owners, many of the items of the boards were similar;  desires to achieve the next level in their specific businesses, travel, financial independence and many used inspiring quotes about focus and growth.

Below are a few pics from the event:

We are grateful to our guests for spending their Saturday afternoon with us, and we’re looking forward to doing this again next year.

Is there someone in your life that could benefit from making a Vision Board? Share this post with them, help them make 2014 their best year ever!

Be sure to connect with us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and don’t forget to Be Exclusively Inclusive!

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Why Tailoring Needs to be Your Secret Fashion Ingredient

It’s happened to the best of us: you see the perfect dress/top/jacket/pants for your upcoming event, there is only one left in your size, AND it’s on clearance. SCORE!

No need to make the trek to the fitting room, you’re familiar with the way clothes from this store fit, (besides, you’re about the same size as the mannequin, and she looks fabulous…) you know it’s going to be perfect.


The hem is too long, your brassiere is peeking out of the top, you have the peek a boo button gap or you look like you have pillows tied around your midsection.



While they probably can’t create world peace, a good tailor can definitely help you get along with your clothes. No more tugging, yanking or snatching to force a good fit. Here’s why your “secret fashion ingredient” needs to be a tailor:




Hemming – pant legs and skirt hems that are too long can make one look like a schlumpadinka. The proper length can make legs look longer (who doesn’t want that?).

Pinning – we’re not talking about Pinterest, pinning tops in the right places can highlight curves, cover up problem areas and make you look thinner

Cuff – your tailor can dump the “dumpiness” of sleeves that are too long by cuffing/folding and even  adding a little bling for a different look

Belt – to achieve an hourglass silhouette your tailor can add a belt using fabric that matches or accentuates your top, or can use a scarf or belt to show off your curves

A little nip and tuck on any garment can elevate the style and give it a custom-made, polished  look. All you need to do is find a to help you learn how your clothes should fit on your body type.

Remember to wash and dry any garments that are known to shrink first. You may reduce, or eliminate the amount of tailoring required.

Do you have a trusted tailor to help you look fabulous in your clothes? Don’t keep them all to yourself, tell us who they are!


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Full Body Workouts to bring your Sexy Back

For those that don’t already know, one of the four tenets of The Confetti Collective is health and wellness. On our quest to be a hair, beauty and fashion resource, we want you to be your healthiest self as well. With this being the fourth day of 2014, we know that some of our readers are trying to figure out how to ease back into a fitness routine, and we want to help.


We’ve compiled a list of some our favorite total body workouts, many don’t require any  special equipment (dumbbells can be substituted with gallon water jugs), and can be done in the comfort of your home.

We don’t want anyone to believe that spending a lot of money is the only way to health and wellness, but we do want you to know that living your healthiest self is indeed priceless.


Check out our a few of our favorite Workouts to bring your Sexy Back:

Little Black Dress Boot Camp Total Body Workout

Full-Body Circuit Workout

9-Minute Hotel Room Total Body Workout

The Ultimate Home Workout

At-Home No Equipment Workout


If bringing your sexy back isn’t a priority for you, workout anyway! Regular physical activity is one of the BEST things you can do for your health. Exercise helps you control your weight, reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease, strengthens bones and muscles, and increases your chances of living longer. As far as we’re concerned, that’s pretty sexy 😉



Have you changed your fitness regimen for the new year? Do you have any new fitness goals? Leave us a comment, post on our Facebook page or Tweet us!




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