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The Confidence to Be Your Own Beautiful – Women’s Confidence Night Recap

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Women’s Confidence Night at Barnett Salon Suites was AMAZING! The team at Barnett coordinated speakers to cover a variety of topics that are of interest to women of all ages, including finances, makeup & hair care, sexuality and confidence.

As your Confidence Pusher, Mo did her signature, “The Confidence to Be Your Own Beautiful” talk where she went over 8 affirmations that would inspire the women in the audience to transform. Mo defines affirmations as “positive statements that help us deal with negative stuff”, and she had an answer for those in the room that tended to believe that affirmations aren’t worth it.

She said, “Words have power; otherwise you wouldn’t get mad when somebody calls you something other than your name.”

We had a room full of laughing, clapping, high-fives and many YAAASSSSS! comments in the room.

Take a look at this video snippet from the event:

WOMENS CONFIDENCE NIGHT

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As The Confetti Collective grows and evolves, we hope that you are inspired to do the same. When you know that you’re becoming a better version of yourself, your confidence increases and you’ll begin your own personal revolution.

 

 

Inspiring Confidence,

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10 Signs He/She Might be a Toxic Friend

Friends are the family that we can choose. We look to our friends when times are good and when times are bad. We cherish meaningful connections with people that share our values and traditions. Having friends fosters a sense of belonging that every human desires.

The truth is, we need friends.

The philosopher Aristotle believes in the power of friendships too. Check out this quote:

“In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.”

Sometimes our desire to surround ourselves with people that we appreciate and care for can put us in relationships that don’t mean us well; we could end up in the company of harmful people disguising themselves as friends.

Here are 10 signs that he/she might be a toxic friend:

They’re untrustworthy. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you can’t trust this person, don’t have them around you.

They’re always involved in drama. If drama seems to follow them everywhere, in every situation, you’ll likely be sucked into those situations with them.

They’re a freeloader. If they take advantage of others’s generosity, expect that they’ll take advantage of yours.

They’re self-centered. The world revolves around them. Nobody else matters, including you.

They don’t celebrate with you when you win. True friends root for you to rise. If your success makes them uncomfortable they’re not your friend.

They lack empathy. Someone that is incapable of empathy is a sociopath. That’s all.

They’re pessimistic. Like being around a Negative Nancy ALL THE TIME. Can’t be positive about anything.

They’re a gossip. The old folks used to say that a dog that brings a bone will carry a bone. If they’re gossiping with you about other people, they may be gossiping with other people about you.

They’re a bully. They’re not taking your lunch money or shoving you in a locker, but they may be attacking you emotionally, leaving you feeling like crap.

They’re inconsistent. Here one day, gone the next.

If you recognize these signs in the people you consider friends, take some time to evaluate your relationship. If the signs point to them being bad for you, do yourself a favor and let them go.

Your peace of mind is too valuable.

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Clothing and Self-Esteem

“It’s just clothes.”

Not really. Your clothing affects how other people perceive and respond to you. Your clothing affects how you think and feel about yourself, your clothing affects your self-esteem.

More so than wearing the latest trends –  being comfortable, looking poised and feeling self-assured begins (or ends) with the clothes you wear.

What comes to mind when you think of the movie Pretty Woman? ? For many people it’s the scene where Julia Roberts goes on her shopping spree; and it’s not about the clothes. It’s about the transformation that the clothes will bring.

According to a study published by The Journal of Experimental Social Psychology fashion sense and clothing choices have an affect on a person’s emotional state. Whether you (want to) believe it or not, self-esteem is affected by your clothing and your clothing choices are affected by self-esteem.

 

Particularly for women, our clothing tells a story of who we are, how we’re feeling that day. For example, the all-white pants suit exudes power and authority. The peplum top could be displaying femininity. The pencil skirt says, “It’s handled” with a nod to the Gladiator-in-Chief, Olivia Pope.

If you have no idea where to begin with choosing confident-boosting clothes, here are 3 tips:

Be comfortable. When you’re uncomfortable it shows on your face. Make sure that your clothing choices feel good on your body. It shouldn’t be something you have to tug on or adjust constantly, taking your focus off what’s in front of you. When you’re comfortable in your clothes you can show up in the full version of yourself

Show personality. Just like you choose wrapping paper for a present, think of your clothes as wrapping for your inner gifts. What are your statement-making giftspersonality traits? Are you creative, modern, open to adventure? Let that come out through what you wear.

Play up your strengths. Do your shoulders give Michelle Obama a run for her money? Do you have legs for days? Do people pay to have lips like yours? Those are your strengths, show them off!

 

We’re not saying that a cute outfit can cure self-esteem issues, but when you need a confidence boost, knowing that you’re presenting the best you that you can be is a welcome source of encouragement.

 

 

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Raising Confident Girls: Five Tips for Grown-Ups

“Be nice.”

These two words are ingrained in our girls from very early in their lives. We remind them over and over and over again that niceness is important. We teach them that niceness is valuable. We tell them that if they’re nice, everything will be wonderful.

We don’t (as often) encourage them to be confident. If we aren’t as intentional, are we really raising confident girls?

In case you missed it, confidence is what we do. Through our blog, our Youtube channel, live events and our apparel we inspire confidence in women and girls. Confidence matters.

We believe that our girls (we take responsibility for being positive examples for girls, so they’re ours) are the next generation of leaders. As they grow to become future educators, entrepreneurs, executives and parents/caretakers, we should be girding them up with confidence and self-esteem.

 

Mo did a live chat about this topic, inspired by Taylor Swift’s mother. Check it out here.

Challenge her. Nothing helps our girls build a solid sense of esteem and self-value than trying (and finishing) something that they once believed was difficult.

Compliment specifically. Comedian Chris Rock once said that women need food, water and compliments….he is SO right. Girls needs to hear compliments as well, but if we want to really make an impact on their self-awareness, those compliments should be specific to them, instead of a blanket “You’re great!”, offer praise based on progress that she’s made on a challenging task.

Encourage assertiveness. The whole “be nice” thing can be dangerous because it sends a message to our girls that other people’s needs and wants are more important than theirs. “Be nice” tells them not to say or do anything that makes other people uncomfortable, without balancing that message with the important of their own needs. Make sure she knows that it’s okay to stand up for herself.

Change her language. Going back to this post, words matter. Encourage her to have frequent conversations with herself, and speak positive words.

Show her better than you can tell her. When she sees girls, young ladies and women doing amazing things, she believes that she can do amazing things. Surround her with role models that show her the possibilities, not the limitations.

In our society that seems to value selfies over self-esteem, it’s important to remind our girls that what REALLY matters is seeing themselves as valuable, worthy, strong and confident.

 

Living in Confetti,

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Words Matter: Confidence and Self-Talk

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” – Proverbs 23:7

You don’t have to believe it, but it’s true – your level of confidence is affected by your self-talk.

Whatever you believe (and say) about and to yourself shapes how you feel about yourself. When it comes to raising young girls, it’s a MUST that they know the power of the words they speak to themselves. Self-talk has a tremendous impact on confidence, and we use our BYOB® and EmpowHER message to spread self-esteem and confidence in women and girls everywhere.

We recently had the opportunity to participate in a 3-day girls camp hosted by Barnett Salon Suites in Sierra Vista, AZ, and it was revolutionary. 42 girls between the ages of 10-18 learned about team building, how to make healthy food choices, art, wellness, fashion/style, hair care, financial management, fitness and how to be their own beautiful.

 

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During our “Confidence Course” workshop, Mo talked to the girls about the importance of speaking positive words to themselves as a way to boost confidence and improve self-esteem. The “small tinies” (elementary schoolers) received the “Beautiful Like Me” affirmation card, and the middle and high schoolers received a copy of the Confidence Code of Conduct. These documents were created to help our next generation of leaders build their personal practice of positive self-talk to feel good about themselves, and support others to do the same.

 

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Is it Time to Quit?

“Quitters  never win.”

“Knowing when to quit may be the best strategy.”

Which one of these is true?  What if both are true? What if neither are true?  Do you know if you’re purposed to do something else in this life, and the thing you’re doing now is preventing you from getting started?

How do you know if it’s time to quit?

  • when the long-term costs outweigh the short-term benefits
  • when your priorities have changed
  • when you’re doing it for the wrong reasons
  • when you’re no longer passionate about it
  • when you don’t see a future worth pursuing

Sometimes quitting is an act of self-preservation; sometimes you just have to do it. But there is a lot of fear and doubt involved in making the decision.

I had this conversation with myself recently, and the answer became crystal clear to me as to what I should do.

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Watch this video to get the scoop:

You’ll find a lot of advice out there about how to know when it’s time to quit (including this post), but the bottom line is the decision is yours to make.

Whether it’s from a job, a business, relationship, etc. you have to be VERY CLEAR about what you really want in order the make the final decision.

Because confidence comes from clarity.