Friends are the family that we can choose. We look to our friends when times are good and when times are bad. We cherish meaningful connections with people that share our values and traditions. Having friends fosters a sense of belonging that every human desires.
The truth is, we need friends.
The philosopher Aristotle believes in the power of friendships too. Check out this quote:
“In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.”
Sometimes our desire to surround ourselves with people that we appreciate and care for can put us in relationships that don’t mean us well; we could end up in the company of harmful people disguising themselves as friends.
Here are 10 signs that he/she might be a toxic friend:
They’re untrustworthy. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you can’t trust this person, don’t have them around you.
They’re always involved in drama. If drama seems to follow them everywhere, in every situation, you’ll likely be sucked into those situations with them.
They’re a freeloader. If they take advantage of others’s generosity, expect that they’ll take advantage of yours.
They’re self-centered. The world revolves around them. Nobody else matters, including you.
They don’t celebrate with you when you win. True friends root for you to rise. If your success makes them uncomfortable they’re not your friend.
They lack empathy. Someone that is incapable of empathy is a sociopath. That’s all.
They’re pessimistic. Like being around a Negative Nancy ALL THE TIME. Can’t be positive about anything.
They’re a gossip. The old folks used to say that a dog that brings a bone will carry a bone. If they’re gossiping with you about other people, they may be gossiping with other people about you.
They’re a bully. They’re not taking your lunch money or shoving you in a locker, but they may be attacking you emotionally, leaving you feeling like crap.
They’re inconsistent. Here one day, gone the next.
If you recognize these signs in the people you consider friends, take some time to evaluate your relationship. If the signs point to them being bad for you, do yourself a favor and let them go.
Your peace of mind is too valuable.